Talk Dirty to Me - Why Sexy Communication Is a Relationship Superpower

Want more mind-blowing sex? Say so. Literally. Talking about your desires — and actually using your words during sex — is one of the most underrated skills in the bedroom. 

Sexual communication isn’t just about saying what you want (though that’s important). It’s about building trust, exploring together, and creating a playground where pleasure and vulnerability collide. Research has shown that couples who communicate openly about sex experience greater sexual satisfaction and overall relationship happiness (Byers & Demmons, 1999). 

Still, many of us were never taught how to talk about sex, let alone how to ask for what we want or share a fantasy without blushing. But sexy talk isn’t just dirty words. It’s about authenticity. Telling your partner what feels good. Asking them what turns them on. Saying, “I loved when you did that, more please.” 

Another aspect of this though is that many of us don’t even know what we want in bed. Especially among women, knowing what you want in bed is an unfamiliar subject. So how do you figure that out? You get to know your body, you try things out and you learn along the way, both by yourself and with your partner.  

Then how do you start talking about it with your partner. The easiest way is often by telling them what feels really good in the moment or right after. Say things such as “I love when you do....” or “It felt really great when....” Then as you allow yourself to talk more and be brave and vulnerable sharing you will also dare to move it outside the bedroom. 

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Resources: 

• Byers, E. S., & Demmons, S. (1999). Sexual satisfaction and communication.