More orgasms, fewer arguments: What science says about sex and happiness

Did you know that studies have repeatedly shown that sexual frequency and pleasure strongly predict how happy couples are, how long they stay together, and even how well they communicate in other areas of life? (Muise et al., 2015).

Sex fosters intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional closeness. It’s not just about the climax, it’s about the connection. When partners prioritize pleasure and communication in the bedroom, they often build better habits for conflict resolution, empathy, and appreciation outside of it. At Undressed we often say that if you can’t talk it out then try fuck it out.

It also works the other way around. Couples who feel emotionally connected are more likely to want sex, and enjoy it more. It’s a beautiful feedback loop that deepens your relationship on every level.

But what if you have ended up in a loop of never feeling spontaneous desire. Two things we recommend:

🔥 Remove the pressure to “perform.” Instead, approach sex like a co-created experience. Focus on exploration. Ask open-ended questions: “What do you fantasize about lately?” or “How can I make you feel more wanted?” Take the time to tune into each other’s bodies, needs, and signals without rushing toward a finish line. Want inspiration: Get our Inimacy Cards

🔥 Schedule a sex date. We know that might sound booring. But it is not. We promise. You can read more here, in our blog post about making scheduled sex sexy

Enjoy!

Resources:

• Muise, A., et al. (2015). Sexual frequency and relationship satisfaction.