Toys 101 - The Guide, Part 1: Intro

The toy guide is finally here. As it turned out to be quite extensive, we decided to split it into several parts. You can see the full outline below.

We know from experience that there are loads of toys out there, and it can be quite overwhelming to even know where to start, so many miss out on getting any. On top of that, we also know that so many people don't know how to introduce using toys with their partner. To summarize, we created this guide so that more people could experience more pleasure.

In Part 1, we will go through the basics of sex toys, including how to introduce and use them with your partner, as well as some tips and tricks. The upcoming parts will each have a theme and will include some insights from us, examples of toys (including our favorites), and, of course, links for ordering. Below is the outline for the upcoming parts of this guide:

Part 2 - Sensitizers (including blindfolds)

Part 3 - Vibrators

Part 4 - Penetrative toys

Part 5 - Restraints

Part 6 - Impact play (whips, floggers, etc.)

Part 7 - Anal

Part 8 - Other fun things (e.g., nipple clamps, candles, etc.)

Part 9 - Q&A - Send your questions via this link

The important ground rules:

• All play shall always be consensual

• Use lube when needed or wanted (some suggestions further down)

• Always clean your toys. There are specific toy cleaning products, but from our experience warm water and soap works great and usually the best way to dry them is to let them air dry

• Have fun, try different things - truly let yourself play

• The experiences we share are our own, and yours may differ, and that's perfectly fine

Toys come in different materials - which one to choose?

The most common materials for penetrative toys (e.g., dildos), vibrators, and anal toys are silicone, glass, and stainless steel. There are also options made from porcelain and stone. We have toys in different materials and love the variety, but for some types of toys, we do have preferences (which we will share). As you may know, silicone is more flexible and softer, while stainless steel and glass are harder and generally heavier, with neither being inherently better than the other. Furthermore, glass and stainless steel tend to be more durable and easier to keep clean. However, they may not be suitable for toys that require flexibility or movement. Of course, there are different types of each material, and you can research further online to learn more.

Lube

Most of the time body fluids (including saliva) are more than sufficient to take care of your lubrication needs. However, at times you will need, or want, some extra lube adding to your own body fluids. We recommend always having some type of lube at home. Generally lubes come in three different variants: oils, silicone-based and water-based. Some people prefer a simple coconut oil, while some like water-based or silicone-based. Comparing the water-based with the silicone-based, the latter has a thicker consistency. Try what works for you and if you are just starting out, start by applying the lube to a non-sensitive part of your body, like the back of your hand before moving on to your genitalia. Personally my pussy does not agree with coconut oil at all, but the rest of my body absolutely loves it. Lastly there are also lubes with relaxing and/or warming properties. Take it extra slow while applying these. (Talking from experience here, when applying a warming lube made me rush to the shower). Lastly silicone-based lubes does not go well with silicone toys long term.

Favorites

Oil-based Lube from Aleah Care

Water-based Lube Anal Vuxen.se

Other ones we like or have heard good things about

Pjur (link to their US website but google to find it in a store that ships to you)

Masturbation and partner play

Toys are amazing for having sex with yourself as well as having mind-blowing sex with your partner. In our experience, we encourage the women out there to explore masturbation as a healthy and invigorating way to take your sex life with your partner to new heights. (Men rarely need encouragement to indulge in masturbation). Try to make masturbation a spiritual and healthy exercise. Make it a bridge to better sex with your partner.

We also know that there is still a lot of shame connected to sex toys for various reasons. So then how to introduce sex toys for partner play. Here are some tips from us:

• Start with something that feels easy, maybe a blindfold or a feather, and then let it develop from there. No rush.

• Tell your partner something like: "I read this blogpost about sex toys and got a bit curious..." and let you partner respond.

• If you know that your partner uses toys while masturbating you may ask: "Which of your toys is your favourite and why?"

• Take it slow. Never rush. Also, don't use it every time, variation is one of the keys for a great sex life

• Our very best tip is of course to use 'The Undressed Date No 2: Toys and Us,' to introduce and start playing with toys with your partner.

To summarize

Practice makes perfect. Experiment and play. Have fun and listen to your body/bodies. And cum hard ;)

Last Note

Psst, fellow explorers, if you're seeking a helping hand and the kind of support that can truly transform your relationship by introducing toys, we've got your back, join the Undressed Community and check out Date No 2: Toys & Us